What is the Real
Solution?
First, our society needs to recognize the problems that
inhibit a victim
from breaking the cycle of abuse inflicted on and controlling them and
their children.
There are currently emergency shelters
for the
victims of
domestic violent crimes though out America. Most shelters
only
allow a victim to stay a
maximum of thirty days. One month is not
sufficient time
for
the victim to gain skills, become established and ready to support
themselves.
It is our opinion this is the
primary reason the
victims leave their abuser and again returns, an average of seven times
before escaping
permanently. This also explains the reason for the statistic
that
tells us that one half of the women who are homeless are women who have
opted to live on the streets rather than return to their abuser for
more beatings.
There is a real need to start these
victims and
their
children with a program helping them adjust and gain a level of
confidence in themselves. Combating the many
years of brainwashing, reinforcing their perceived
unworthiness of any self esteem. These
victims need a secure environment to begin their initial healing.
In the Can Too Center's safe campus these victims can realize
the
hopes that are necessary
for them to develop the needed commitment to the training that is
offered to them by the Can Too Center program. This second
phase
by
Can Too Center is to teach them the skills of
good parenting, stewardship of their own finances and educate them with
skills and training that will enable them to be productive, valuable
employees
of tomorrow.
Helping victims should exceed
just giving them
a
place to hide for a few weeks. These victims are still
panicked
by the thought of returning, and are assuming there is no
options
for permanent escape. REAL
HELP
is teaching them the skills
and training so that they can become independent and confident people.
By the
victim's gaining these new skills and independence their children are
able to
start a new path themselves to become self-sufficient and
loved
and loving adults thus breaking the cycle.