Testimonials
By Judi Tiller
February 14, 2008

        This book is written from the heart of one who has been there & wants to spare others from the pains that she endured.  As a fellow survivor, while reading this book I did not want to put it down but due to the flood of memories that over took me there were times I would stop for a stop for a short while but soon was back reading!
        I gave the book to my daughter as soon as I was done. . .EVERY loving parent should have their daughter(s) read this book in order to become more educated towards the warning signs.  I wish I had known th warning signs many years ago.  THANKS Deb for sharing your terror in an attempt to help others !!!!!

By Jennifer Tiller
February 7, 2008

        We can never have enough information to help us protect ourselves.  Some very good advice from one who has "been there/done that".  Make sure to read and pass on to others.  Use the information to warn your daughters and guide your sons.

Robert Tilford
June 2009

        For me personally it was extremely difficult to read Family Terror all the way through because it describes in such graphic detail the abuse and torment suffered by someone who was a victim of domestic violence.

        To say it was profoundly disturbing would be a gross understatement.

        At various points through out the reading of this book --I had to literally put it down lest I fall apart emotionally and become a blithering idiot unable to control my emotions.  Very troubling was the fact that all the abuse was happening within the context of a marriage relationship --an otherwise sacred and holy institution between a man and a woman for the procreation of children. Marriage (or the family unit on which it is based) is also the core of society, hence also the title of the book itself "Family Terror".

        As a victim of abuse and torture myself, as a child I could immediately identify very deeply and personally with some of the descriptions of fear, loathing and anxiety portrayed in the book.  There were some  parts of the book where I wept bitterly --like a sailor who sees his ship busted against the rocks.

        Often times we think about post traumatic stress disorder (or PTSD) in terms of "combat" --certainly not in marriage and/or violence within the marriage relationship itself.  In terms of the abuse and violence in this case, there is a verse in the bible which talks about the heart of man being "desperately wicked" --this book for me is affirmation of this profound fact.

        I am also reminded that at best --life is a "veil of tears" because, often times there is no hope.

        Furthermore, I believe the Preacher in the little book of Ecclesiastes had it right when he praised the dead more than the living because they had not seen or heard the evil work that is done under the sun. . . .Vanity of vanity all is vanity and vexation of spirit.

        Very disturbing to me are the descriptions of the apathy and total indifference of people within our society to the victims of abuse and torture - who see something wrong by refuse to otherwise get involved -  so they simply pretend it doesn't exist, and/or turn a blind eye to the situation where someone is being abused (or in this case "tormented").  A perfect example of which is the repairman in the book who came to work on a piece of equipment at the residence at the same time Deb was being beaten, could hear and see the abuse going on in the next room and instead of intervening or calling the police in this situation to protect the victim, gets up and callously closes the door on the victim - essentially trapping the victim inside.  Thus the old adage is true -- all that evil need to triumph is society is for good men to do nothing.  
    Sincerely


Rachel C.
Texas July 08

        Deb, I just finished your book.  It was very interesting and I agree completely with you.  I would very much like to support you in your quest.  I will do my best to promote your book and your cause.  This book helped me to realize that I am not alone.  Women all over hide the "dirty secret" for fear of society judging them.  I than God everyday for the courage to face the Crime of Domestic Abuse head on.  God is with you Deb.  Keep up the good work.